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Aug. 19th, 2008

  • 9:03 PM
sunny

It took a large bottle of ice water and my mp3 player to get me through bed time routines tonight.  When I'm hot, sweaty, and tired I have zero patience, and it took Charlotte a lot of convincing to finally settle down and go to sleep.  Julia is still awake and seriously, if she comes out her room one more time my head will blow off.

After the girls went to bed, It took me 45 minutes to fold diapers, tidy up the living room, kitchen, and family room and I still have  four loads of laundry to fold and dishes to wash.  Jack's been at work since dawn and he should be home in about an hour; a 16 hour day for him.  A loooong day for both of us.

Now, the news about school and my poor little 'puter.  The highlights, in bullet form:

* Because I can't officially graduate until after I write the CMRE (in May or September), I have been given an extension until that time.  

*So technically, I have until May or September to finish my grad requirements, although I still have to finish each course one year after I started it.  

* I have until February 16/09 to finish Herbology and Midwifery Support Skills (which is one year after I started them), but I only have until September 7/08 to finish Complications and Breastfeeding.  

* Considering all of my work for my Complications research paper was lost, I have two weeks or so to do it all, from start to finish.  Yay.

* There may be another class I have to do, but they are looking into this.  I'm hoping they don't change their original decision to waive it for me :-/

* Dell is going to send me a new hard drive free of charge because my laptop is still under warranty.  I can either install it myself or get someone else to do it.  

* I need to find out how much the computer place would charge me to install it, and hopefully I'll have my laptop back in working order in a couple of weeks *happy dance*

* I am still going to look into data recovery because I neeeeeeed most of that stuff on the old hard drive :-(


mmmm....Subway....

  • Aug. 19th, 2008 at 10:37 AM
hamster binge

When I needed to do my IV starts, I asked two local EMT friends to help me and they willingly offered their supplies, their arms, and their time to help me - twice.  To thank them, I bought them each a box of bandaids (Curious George and My Little Pony ones to be exact), and a subway gift card to treat them to lunch.  I wrapped  their bandaids and gift cards together with sparkly ribbon and left them on the EMT office desk; they'll be so surprised, and amused :-)

After buying Subway cards yesterday and then seeing

[info]darlingmiette 's picture post of a Subway sandwich, I'm definitely going to pick up subs for lunch today.  If it's too hot outside for a picnic, then we will spread a blanket on the family room floor and have a picnic inside.  Julia will love that.  

I have good news from my school and from Dell computers, which I will post about later, but a Subway sub picnic and a few games of Skipbo with Julia comes first.

 

it's a new day

  • Aug. 19th, 2008 at 6:52 AM
big mama
I got out of bed this morning; that's a start.

I'll have my phone meeting with the school president today and find out how much of an extension I can get.  Then I'll find out how much work I have to do all over again.  The last two or three sections of Herbology, my entire Complications research paper, the last three assignments for Midwifery Support Skills (which isn't a big deal actually), and then study for two final exams.  I'm ignoring the voice in my head that is reminding me that Jack is working every day, I have no childcare, Kim is at camp for a week, Julia's summer activities are now finished and she is bored, and the hellish hot weather continues. Alternating Rascal Flatts and Pussycat Dolls helps quiet that voice.

I'll phone Dell computers today and find out if they will honor my warranty, and how long it will take to get my computer back.  A hard drive isn't that expensive but I need all of my programs loaded again too.

I'm going to reload my mp3 player with new music and buy some headphones for my desktop computer.  As tragic as it is to lose my laptop, even temporarily, I am thankful that at least I still have a computer in my house.   There are lots of things that I am grateful for, things that gave me the will and strength to get up this morning.

In no particular order...

* Julia's freckles and big gap-toothed smile

* a husband who is crazy in love with me after 22 years

* a beautiful teenaged daughter who knows how to have a good time without alcohol, sex, or drugs

* a basket full of diapers to fold this morning

* a baby who sleeps on her tummy with her butt in the air

* a long row of colorful duotangs full of course syllabi that I've completed

* breasts that produce a bountiful supply of milk, despite being cut and reduced in size by half

* sitting in my recliner every morning to nurse Charlotte with the warm sun and cool morning breeze filtering in through the front door

* a computer in my house that works

* stacks of fresh, new school supplies on my desk waiting to be loaded into the girls' backpacks

* a large shelf full of scrapbooks that contain my creativity and memories; gifts for my children

* knowing my mom is still in remission and cancer free

* an unopened bottle of ice cold Coke Zero in the fridge, that Jack went out and bought just for me

* fresh cut grass on Abby's grave

* an air-conditioned vehicle and a full tank of gas

* a positive balance in the cheque book, even if it is a really, really small one

* recent memories of holding wet, warm newborn babies in my hands


 

where to begin...

  • Aug. 18th, 2008 at 8:52 PM
cracking under pressure
* I went to bed last night at 3:30 a.m., and it wasn't because I was playing Wii or watching the olympics.  School work, my friends, school work.

* Julia brought Charlotte into my room at 6:30 a.m.  Six.Thirty.A.M.  For those of you who are as math challenged as I am, that would be just three hours after I went to bed.  I got up, made scrambled eggs and toast for breakfast, kissed Kim good-bye on her way out to the door for a week of camp, and prepared myself for the day.

* Today marks the 22nd anniversary of the day that Jack and I became a couple.  It also marks the 9th anniversary of the day we lost our second child.  Baby Joy, I hope you are having fun with your big sister up there.

* Cheerios for supper - yup, it was that kind of day.

* Jack and I paid a babysitter to watch the Littles tonight so that he and I could attend a Cemetery Committee meeting.  After all the events of the past month, it was time to meet these people face to face and try to work something out.  There were three families represented, and most of the committee members were respectful, apologetic, and gracious.  Three of them were so rude, disrespectful and total ASSHOLES that I was tempted to slap their faces.  Keith Wilson was one of them, the chair of the committee was another (can't remember his name...I'm sure I could think of a good one for him), and Mr. LEO BOSER.  He was the biggest ass of all.  He was so rude, shouted at us that we were basically wasting their time, and said some really insensitive things.  Finally I snapped and said "Do YOU have a child buried out there?  Do YOU have a wife or mother buried out there?"  He said, "Let's not make this personal..."    "What?  Let's not make this PERSONAL?!?!  Pulling the solar lights, flowers, and ceramic angels off of graves and throwing them in the garbage *IS* PERSONAL!!"  I'd had it at that point and I burst into tears.  To know that the golf course, public parks, ball diamonds, and freakin' downtown planter boxes are given more respect than the cemetery just makes me want to barf.  Anyway, I could go on about this all day, and this fight has only begun.

* And, I had some really bad news.  The computer store called today and my laptop is wrecked.  I need a new hard drive and nothing.....NOTHING could be salvaged off the old one.  Nothing at all.  So all of my completed work that I hadn't submitted yet, and all of my work in progress is gone.  Totally.fucking.gone.  All of my internet links, photos, lj icons, computer programs, research - gone.  Two days before I'm supposed to be finished.  

You know what, God?  I'm really sick and tired of sliding into home base only to find it's been moved, or even totally removed.  What's next?  Is Jack going to ask for a divorce the day before our 20th wedding anniversary?  Is Kim going to overdose on drugs a week before her high school graduation?  Am I going to have a heart attack on my way to a home birth to catch my first grandchild?   I wouldn't be surprised.

 

for my own records

  • Aug. 18th, 2008 at 1:43 AM
energizer bunny

* Requested final exams for Breastfeeding and Herbology.  Hope to write them early next week.

* contacted my Herbology instructor to ask about my grades for the first two sections of that course.  They received them at the school in April, and I have no record of my grades - not in my school email, not in my online academic report, and not in my personal email.  I'm sure it's just an oversight, but I want to be sure that they were received and graded!

* Emailed school president about asking for an extension for my graduation.  Will talk with her tomorrow.

* copied clinical paperwork from the work I did with Liz, to send to school

* copied IV Skills paperwork, to send to school

* copied preceptor forms from the EMT(s) I did the IV's with, to send to school

* checked the dates for the May CMRE:  
Exam date is May 21, 2009
Deadline to register is March 30, 2009
Cost is $750

* emailed Alberta registrar about appealing the decision about not being accepted into PLEA.  If I can appeal it and be officially accepted, I can write the CMRE in May, otherwise I have to wait until October 2009?

* checked Manitoba PLEA information.  I would have to apply by the end of March 2009 and would write the CMRE in September only?  If I choose to apply to the Bridging Program, I will find out if I'm accepted by the end of January 2009.  I guess if I don't get into the Bridging Program, I can apply to PLEA by the end of March.

* checked Briding Program information.  
Application deadline is October 14, 2008.  
Application form won't be available until September!  
Application fee is $300, and an additional $500 for the Accelerated Option.  
The program is 7 months long and starts in March 2009.  
If I get into the Accelerated Option, I can write the CMRE in May.
"Important Dates" and information available here, for my fellow Canadian students.

* looked up contact information for midwives in Calgary and Red Deer to ask about a clinical placement.  I need to keep doing clinical work and I need to increase my "numbers" for registration!

* researched regulations about reporting fetal deaths in Saskatchewan, as an assignment for Midwifery Support Skills.  Yay fun.

* drank too much caffeine too late at night, and so I'm still awake at 1:55 a.m.  I'm going to pay for this tomorrow.

Saskatchewan Statistics

  • Aug. 18th, 2008 at 1:18 AM
Abby's hand
I was researching information about neonatal deaths (for a school assignment) and came across the provincial stats for 2006.


 

reading wishlist

  • Aug. 17th, 2008 at 10:05 PM
stacks of books
I was browsing on Chapters.ca and came across some books that are already published or will be released soon.  Some of my fellow birth junkies may appreciate the heads up:

Labor of Love:  A Midwife's Memoir - by Cara Muhlhahn, Ricki Lake, Abby Epstein.  $20, will be released Dec 2008.

Homebirth in the Hospital:  Integrating Natural Childbirth with Modern Medicine - Stacie Marie Kerr, $14, will be released in October 2008.

Midwife's Handbook of Ultrasound - will be released in October 2010 (ok, I know it's a wait, but it still sounds interesting!)

The Blue Cotton Gown: A Midwife's Memoir - $18, will be released October 2008.

Home Birth - Evans,$44, will be released in June 2009

At Work in the Field of Birth: Midwifery Narratives of Nature, Tradition, and Home - Margaret E. MacDonald (already released and IN STOCK - I bought this one!)

Shadow Child:  A Woman's Journey through Childbirth Loss - Beth Powning, $16, IN STOCK 

Heaven's Child:  Recovering from the Loss of an Infant - Christine Ikenberry, $12, IN STOCK

Companioning at a Time of Perinatal Loss:  A Guide for Nurses, Physicians, Social Workers, Chaplains, and Other Bedside Caregivers - Jane Heustis, Marcia Meyer Jenkins - $28, IN STOCK



dog days of August

  • Aug. 17th, 2008 at 4:17 PM
summer sky

Summer is unofficially going to end soon, as the girls go back to school at the end of the month.  This week I will focus on getting their school supplies organized and labelled, and we'll be enforcing bed times and morning routines to get them adjusted before the first day of school.  Who will give me more grief - Kim or Julia? 

It's hot today, it's going to be even hotter tomorrow.  I don't like the heat, I feel very drained and grouchy when it's this hot.  I look forward to moderately warm days when I can enjoy being outside, and I can get things done in the house without feeling sweaty and sticky.  With our short summer season, I should enjoy it more but I just don't.  In a future home, I'd like to have a covered or shaded deck in the back yard, and maybe even central a/c.  Our backyard is almost completely without shade and faces south/south east so the sun just beats down from late morning to evening.

Julia is outside with some garage sale dishes, making mud pies with a friend.  She is Bored almost all of the time, and so miserable, snotty, and disrespectful that I have been tempted to take her to the hospital or police station and leave her there.  Ok, I wouldn't really do that, but I sure hope that the next Child Counsellor/Psychologist/Psychiatrist we see can give us some real answers and some REAL solutions.  If one more person tells me how intelligent Julia is without giving me practical ways to manage her behavior....bad things will happen.

I have dug out a Baby Einstein DVD and some toys from the bottom of the tickle trunk to amuse Charlotte for a few minutes.  She's cranky  too, not sleeping well, kicking and screaming when I change her diaper....toddlers are edible, aren't they?

I am missing my laptop :-(  I went through my school work to see if there is anything I can do on my desk top (without having to start over completely) and I found one long assignment that I can continue on paper.  What?  Pen to paper?  Unheard of.

I was looking through Kim and Julia's scrapbooks this morning, trying to remind myself that we have had a lot of good times together as a family.  I'm two and half years behind in Kim's album, and only slightly further ahead in Julia's.  Charlotte's has only a few pages done and there is still a lot of work to do in Abby's.  I think once I am done school, I will be spending all of my time either studying for the CMRE, or working on my scrapbooks.  I really want to get them caught up, preferably before I'm in practice full time.

Once in a while I go into my "picture" file on the computer and sorf the digital pictures so that when I am ready to print and scrapbook for each daughter, the pictures are sorted and ready to go.   

Charlotte has lost interest in everything except the cordless phone and the swing top garbage can beside my desk, so off I go; back on Mom Duty.

bullets before a reasonable bedtime

  • Aug. 13th, 2008 at 10:31 PM
holding baby
* Charlotte made the sign for "milk" several times today; the first time when I asked her if she was hungry.

* Jack was home today and since my EMT friends were also available, I took Jack up to the hospital and used him as a pin cushion.  Well, I did my last three required IV starts on him, and got them all on the first try.  So I'm six for six - not bad for a rookie!

* Oh, and did I mention that I'm DONE my IV class now!?  Yipee!

* We went to the city today and got Julia some school supplies and new clothes for school.  Cha-ching.

* After we killed ourselves shopping, I put Charlotte in the mei tai and and we went to the fair.  I had a lot of curious looks as we walked around the fair, and a few people thought it was really cool.  Jack just liked the way the straps criss-cross over my chest ;-)

* Julia had never been to the fair and she had a great time, but Jack and are still stinging from the ridiculous amount of money it cost to go on a few rides and buy mini donuts.  Crazy.

* I went to Walmart and I didn't go into the baby department, I didn't bring home any Coke Zero, and I didn't buy any cookies.  I guess I do have some self-control...

not a moment too soon

  • Aug. 13th, 2008 at 9:08 AM
abby's foot

In our local cemetery, the rows of graves in the new section are arranged in double rows with walking/driving space between them.  So the row that Abby is in has a walking/driving space at the 'head' of those graves and then there would be someone else buried very close to the 'foot' of the graves in the next row.  We bought two plots beside Abby for Jack and myself so we knew that we'd always have room to walk, sit, and visit at the 'head' of her grave and beside her, but I always hated the idea that someone would be buried very close to the 'foot' of her grave.

I called the Town Office a few weeks ago to find out how much it would cost to buy the empty available plot at her feet.  When they told me how much it would cost, I was disappointed because it was a lot more than I expected and I didn't think I could justify spending that much money for no good reason.  Jack told me to buy it, he didn't care what it cost, but it just seemed like a lot of money.  I was still bothered by the thought of someone being buried so close to Abby and when we went out to the cemetery the other day, I saw that there was a fresh grave at the foot of where Jack will someday be buried and I knew that it wouldn't be long at all before the space near Abby was taken as well.

So I phoned the Town Office again this morning and asked if that spot was still available.  It was, but it was also the very next plot that would be sold if someone died, so I bought it.  I'm glad that we will always have that space around Abby.  Maybe someday we'll sell that spot, or maybe my mom will want to buried there, but for now it's nice to know that it's ours and we won't have to walk around a stranger's grave to get to Abby.

Call me  crazy.  When it comes to Abby, I am.

say no to crack

  • Aug. 13th, 2008 at 1:17 AM
holding baby
Ok, so I've been watching bits and pieces of the Olympics and what I would like to know, is what is UP with the super duper low rise swim trunks and bathing suits bottoms?   The men's diving has been on for a while and their trunks are so low that I'm sure they have to shave all their pubic hair and I've seen more crack than I care to see.  Sure, the men are in good shape, nice athletic bodies, but I just don't like to see anyone wearing stuff that low, EVER.   I think it just looks icky, and on women I think it's looks sleazy to wear stuff super duper low on their hips.    Toned abs are one thing, but do the clothes have to be 8 - 10 inches below their umbilicus?

Even the women's volleyball teams had super low rise bikini bottoms and the tiniest sports bra/top that they could wear without bouncing out of their suits.  I understand the whole streamlining thing, especially when it comes to swimming, but come ON, can you save the butt crack and pubic hair line for the bedroom?

nuff said.

 

E for effort

  • Aug. 12th, 2008 at 1:45 PM
fall leaf
No school work done today yet, but not for lack of trying.  When Charlotte had her morning nap I had a shower and then played a game of Skipbo with Julia, then I made lunch as soon as Charlotte got up.  I took Julia to daycamp at 1 o'clock and because it's pouring rain, they can't do their regular outdoor activities this afternoon, and the power is out in their building today so they decided to go to the public library.  They needed drivers so....in an hour I have to go and pick the kids up and bring Julia home.  I thought I might be able to get something done but Charlotte is grouchy, pulling my books off the table, hitting my computer, throwing fits because I won't let her play with my cell phone or rip up the phone book.  It's a good thing she's so cute.

*sigh*


she signed!

  • Aug. 11th, 2008 at 10:10 PM
newborn charlotte
Charlotte came over to me tonight and was making her usual whimper/whine/point to let me know she wanted to nurse.  I keep making the "milk" sign, trying to encourage her to sign instead of whine, yanno?  So today I had her sitting in my lap facing me and I was trying to get her to sign "milk" and I saw her making the sign for "more"!!!

As soon as I said "More?  You want more?", she got very excited and made the sign several more times!!  Many, many months have gone by since she's attempted to sign, and I would really love her to sign instead of whimpering and whining to get what she wants, so I'm thrilled that she finally seems to be catching on :-)

Now, if she would only try to make the sign for "milk".

 

Aug. 11th, 2008

  • 8:42 PM
stacks of books
I don't think this commercial is in the US, but in Canada there is a commercial for the lotto 649 "Extra", where a group of cheerleaders are waiting outside of a store and every time a lotto Extra winner comes out, they cheer for them.  The suggestion is that there are so many winners that the cheerleaders are all worn out and can barely cheer anymore, so their cheering is very....unenthusiastic.  So why am I rambling on about this?  Because it's how I feel right now.  I just finished Sections 5 and 6 (of 7) in Herbology and all I could muster was a deep sigh and a "yay" that didn't even make it out of my mouth.  My pom-poms are very deflated these days even though I feel great satisfaction in checking things off my list. 

I think Julia has absorbed all of the enthusiasm that I lack.  She just got home from Vacation Bible School (which is being hosted by a very funny ventriloquist) and she is *so* excited!  "That was AWESOME!!!"   In between each bedtime task, she runs out to the living room to tell us all about it, laughing as she talks.   It's nice to see her happy, and not just crazy and hyper, KWIM?  

Now, diapers in the dryer, Littles to bed, then I make my nest on the couch downstairs with my books around me.  My butt is numb, my tailbone is sore, and I have a lingering headache.  Eight days....and it feels like it's all uphill.

It's good to know where I stand

  • Aug. 11th, 2008 at 7:01 PM
newborn charlotte
Charlotte was chattering today, and each time she started saying "momomom"  I tried to catch it on video.  The first time, I wasn't so successful.

The second time....brief success, but she's a daddy's girl ;-)


a little something to wash it down?

  • Aug. 8th, 2008 at 4:34 PM
breastfeeding toddler
I thought Charlotte was eating her cheerios.

Nope.  She was eating dry cat food, and then she came over and asked to nurse.  So if breastmilk is served with dry cat food, then what do you think she would like to have with the soggy pieces of her board book?

I swear, I do feed the child, honest I do.

asking Americans

  • Aug. 8th, 2008 at 1:24 PM
holding baby

I know that you don't have Ketchup chips down there, but do you have dill pickle?  

one giant red checkmark plz

  • Aug. 7th, 2008 at 11:29 PM
time to graduate
Except for my final exam, I am DONE my Breastfeeding course!!  I admit, my last few assignments may have been....less than brilliant, but they're done, and I've done really well on the whole course so I'm not worried (I've got 98.4 % so far).  Now I just have to find the time to study for the final :-/

Tomorrow, Complications will be the beast I take on.  I just feel so lost in my thoughts, trying to write a research paper when I feel so inadequate to do something so important.  I just need to write the darn thing and hand it in, hope that I don't totally blow it and then move on to something else, like...

Herbology.  *rolls eyes* 
So many fiddly assignments to do for that course, and honestly, it doesn't interest me all that much.  Do an herb walk, visit a garden center, make an herbal tincture, syrup, oil, salve, suppository, then harvest and dry herbs.  Bah.  There are written assignments to do as well and I am more interested in them, but I will do all of the assignments, thrilling or not.  *sigh*

And I've started thinking about what I want to do when I actually finish.  There won't be a cap and gown ceremony for me, there won't even be a diploma until after I've written the CMRE.  What I will get is a letter from my school saying that I've completed all the requirements for the program except for writing the CMRE and my official graduation is contingent on me passing that exam.

When I mail the last of my paperwork, I will feel a huge sense of relief and accomplishment.  What can I do to recognize all that work?  Stand on top of the stacks of textbooks I've read?  Roll around in the rainbow of duotangs that contain all of my completed course work?  Buy a pack of party favors and toot my own horn?  It seems sort of anticlimactic after all the time and effort it's taken to get here.  I guess in a way, I'm not done yet.  I still need to get into PLEA or the Bridging Program, write the CMRE, and get a job.  Maybe once I've been officially hired somewhere as a Registered Midwife, I'll throw one helluva big party, noisemakers and all.

 

13 days

  • Aug. 7th, 2008 at 8:48 AM
time to graduate
Officially less than two weeks now, and my study time is about to disappear.  Kim is away tomorrow, then she's babysitting from dawn to dusk all next week, and the following week she's at camp.   My computer and books will become a permanent fixture on the kitchen table, I'm sure.

Can I panic now?

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